Let’s Talk about Sex



     Hold up, before you get too excited you dirty bird, we’re not talking about the hot, nasty, beautiful, intimate extravaganza of raw passion that we engage in with our soul mates, people we have mistaken for soul mates, or the occasional (or not so occasional) stranger. No, let’s instead discuss gender identity and the enormous controversy surrounding it today. *The sounds of tires coming to a screeching halt, and records scratching falls over the reader.* It’s a far less exciting topic than the latter, but nonetheless it needs to be addressed, so I'm sorry if I killed your boner (or lady boner). The debate on gender identity, which basically encompasses whether or not someone can pick and choose their genetic composition, is one of the forefront topics in this country and it has been in vicious cycle of facts vs feelings for quite some time now. It’s a complex animal to begin dissecting though because some of the ideas about being who you truly want to be and the freedoms to do so are valid, and some are absolute trash that are so masked in the idea of total inclusion and acceptance that it becomes devoid of all reason and logic. So the real question is, is there a middle ground that can be reached between what we know scientifically and biologically about the two genders and how people emotionally identify their gender?



     Let’s start with some of the basic differences between men and women. Women have XX chromosomes and Men have XY chromosomes. Men and women have different sexual organs, so that they can reproduce. Females can carry and give birth to a child while males cannot. No shit, right?! All of the aforementioned facts used to be taught in 6th grade sex ed classes across the nation, but now that proven scientific information is being called false as if it were a theory, if that were the case then there would be wiggle room for discussion, but it is not a theory it’s a cold hard fact. People are now saying that gender is not a duality but a fluid state of consciousness that has basically no limitation or restriction on what people can be at any given time. Interesting hypothesis, but just in case you were wondering, that’s fucking incorrect on a multitude of levels. If you’re saying that it's all fine and dandy for a person to change their state of being whenever they choose, then you are encouraging mental illness i.e. multiple personality disorder (a documented mental illness that requires treatment). Some of you just became undeniably furious at that last statement, but worry not my social justice warriors, I can assure you, you won't be alone by the end of this article. Here's the problem with the idea of being "fluid", there is nothing backing the argument for gender fluidity besides emotion, and as hard as it may be for some people to hear, facts always trump emotions. However, we cannot ignore that this is an extremely emotional topic because we're talking about people who are, at a base level, asking to simply be accepted and loved even though they don’t fit the traditional mold that we’ve become accustomed to living amngst, and just like we’ve done a million times before, we’ve turned to the government for a solution and the whole thing has turned into a goddamn circus.



     Whenever the answer to a question isn’t quite cut and dry in these United States of ours, we tend to ask our almighty and omnipotent politicians for a solution, and in this case a solution to a very personal and intimate problem that they have no business being involved in. Remember how eloquently and and expediently the government dealt with gay people wanting to get married? The simple fact that we wouldn’t recognize two people of the same sex wanting to spend their lives together is fucking absurd. On top of that, it took nearly five decades for straight people to get swayed enough by politicians to vote that right into existence across all fifty states. For fifty fucking years people opposed gay marriage based on an argument rooted purely in Christianity. And they would uphold their opposition with a universal justification, “In the Bible it is written that marriage is a holy union between a man and woman in the eyes of God.” And it does say that, but no one ever seemed to give a shit about heterosexual atheists, agnostics, people of literally any other religion, or even satanists that were getting hitched while not being united in the eyes of the Lord, and that’s kind of an odd double standard. What it really boils down to is the fact that homosexuality is not the norm in our culture and it makes some people really uncomfortable, which is understandable based on your upbringing. Homosexuality even angers some people, as a matter of fact, it angers some so deeply and passionately that they feel the need to take it upon themselves to make sure that they have the ability to suppress someone else's love life. If you happen to be one of those people then you can suck all of the dicks, or don’t. See that’s the beauty, no one is forcing you to, no one should be forcing their own life choices on to anyone. Who gives a damn about how someone gets their rocks off, as long as their not hurting anyone? For example, If some dude wants so paint his dick purple and let vagrants and hobos slap his balls around with a ping pong paddle, while in the privacy of his own home, then more power to him. And thankfully we’ve progressed enough as a society to let people express their inner freaks with like minded individuals to their hearts content. But why is it so hard to do that very same thing with the idea of people having freedom with their genders. Well, it’s because of that shit show circus mentioned earlier, both political parties picked a side on this topic, exploited the fuck out of it (and transgenders), and shoved it down everyone’s throats rather than just letting people live their lives.



     While trying to remain somewhat impartial on the topic of something so biased, it has to be said that the Democratic Party has royally shit the bed when it comes to helping transgender people progress in today’s society. They’ve made a mockery out of their own argument and people’s individual identities, by going as far as stating that if you don’t agree that gender is a choice then you’re a bigot. That’s a pretty hateful and exclusive word from some people who claim to be all about love and support. But here’s the real deal, if you were born a man and it puts a big old smile on your face to dress up as a woman, then good for you. If you have no idea what gender you want to be, then by all means, take a non-binary time out and discover thy own self before you start playing musical chairs with your mental state. If you feel so uncomfortable in your skin that you’ve thought about killing yourself, because you honest to goodness feel like you were born into the wrong body and you want a sex change, then please do it. The pursuit of happiness is something we are all entitled to get up and go after, but if someone doesn’t know you personally, and isn’t familiar with your struggle, then don’t expect them to give a shit about you, what you want, or if they referred to you as the wrong pronoun. Sounds brutal right? That’s because life is fucking brutal. No matter who you are, who you want to be, or what you want to be life is going to continually kick the dog shit out of you, and you have to keep on getting up and kicking back. If a major road block towards your future is the fact that you are offended at the fact that someone chooses to disagree with your way of living, then you need to toughen the actual fuck up and get a little grit in your teeth, or else you’re not going to make it.



     In conclusion, you live in the land of the free, start fucking acting like it. Get up, keep your nose on your own grindstone, look out for your own family, and stop concerning yourselves with other people’s business. Because as long as we keep blurring the lines between acceptance and tolerance then progress will remain a pipe dream, and we will never find that sweet spot of cohesion we all want so badly.